SGT. SUSAN GRANT Women in Policing Contributor Officer.com
I don’t date anymore. If I did, my husband would kill me. But I did date, back in the Stone Age, and I have friends who are still on the dating scene, or re-entering the dating scene. But finding a date when you are a policewoman can sometimes prove to be difficult. Unlike policemen, we do not have “badge bunnies” chasing us. There aren’t men out there just waiting to marry a policewoman so she can take care of him. You see, women love men in uniform; it is masculine and authoritative, courageous and strong. Women in the same uniform carry similar qualities, which usually aren’t considered attractive qualities for a female—unless you are wearing a nurse’s uniform rather than a police one. Regardless, it takes a special kind of man to become involved with a policewoman.
As a female police officer there are a host of considerations that cross our mind that the average female wouldn’t think of when dating someone for the first time. Does he have a criminal record? Is there a photo of him at the police station? Does he do drugs? Does he drink and drive? These are first or second date thoughts for us. Where the average woman would be thinking; “Does he work out? Does he have money? Does he have a hot car?” Well, we wonder if he has a hot car, too, but it means something entirely different in our world.
A police officer girlfriend of mine was dating this really nice guy for approximately six months, when she went to try some cookies that were in his freezer. He freaked out at her when she opened the tub to grab a few. Apparently the cookies were not for common consumption, but were a party item with an extra-special ingredient called “hash.” She had no idea he did drugs. So ended that relationship, and made her extra vigilant towards such activity the next time. Ever wonder why a lot of cops marry each other? This, among other reasons, is definitely why. Cops come with a basic set of values (at least they are hired with them), which gives you a common starting point as a couple. It is assumed, and for the most part true, that your police date will not be using drugs—a “given,” if you will.
Regardless of the drug issue or the drinking issue or, heaven forbid, a tendency towards violence, it is very difficult to date a policewoman, and that is why it takes a special man. Why, you ask? Well, if you find emotional softness or weakness attractive, you won’t get much of that from us. I don’t mean we are robots, we do cry when we need to, but we are desensitized to a lot of things; we have to be for our job. If our nail breaks or the heel of our shoe falls off, we’re okay with that. If you are looking for someone to “take care of,” well, you may need to look elsewhere. Most policewomen are fairly independent and can take care of themselves. But be prepared—if you date a policewoman you will have to get used to comments such as; “Do you use her handcuffs in bed? Did she strip search you yet?” Or, my personal favorite; “Can she take care of my speeding ticket for me?” We never tire of these (yeah, right), but you might.
Dating a policewoman also comes with several other consequences: missing parties, birthdays and Christmases due to shift work, the danger of the job itself, and the fact that she is working with a lot of other men. Those would be the three biggies. Are you confident enough to watch your girlfriend or wife work night after night with the same man? Are you comfortable going to parties and other events on your own? Are you confident that she will come home safe at the end of the nightshift? If you are, you may be ready to date or marry a female officer.
Really, dating or marrying a female officer isn’t so bad. She makes her own money, doesn’t have to buy clothes for work, only needs one pair of shoes (her boots), she can take care of herself when you are away on a business trip, and her male counterparts often have additional skills that can help around the house: painters, landscapers etc. Not a bad deal, really. Ask my husband—he likes it.
-- Edited by Photogrrlz at 19:22, 2006-04-06
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Well, if you find emotional softness or weakness attractive, you won’t get much of that from us. But I think they have the emotional softness too. It's like the creamy filling inside. Seriously.
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As a female police officer there are a host of considerations that cross our mind that the average female wouldn’t think of when dating someone for the first time. Does he have a criminal record? Is there a photo of him at the police station? Does he do drugs? Does he drink and drive? These are first or second date thoughts for us. Where the average woman would be thinking; “Does he work out? Does he have money? Does he have a hot car?” Well, we wonder if he has a hot car, too, but it means something entirely different in our world.
That is the one I relate to the most....
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I would date a female cop, no problem. I don't have the issues with it that other men seem to. That is my gain and thier loss. That's what I say. More for me.
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I can check out the public records of arrest in my area everyday. I can also look up people to see if they have been arrested and what for..... I am not a cop!!!!! but I do check and it is public records..... I am too suspecious of everyone!!!!
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You can't think of a reason to supect him for something while you're driving by his house, and casually run his plates? Is the fact that I even thought of that one big reason why I'll never be a police officer?
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So make the best of this test, and don't ask why.
It's not a question, but a lesson learned in time. - Green Day
As a female police officer there are a host of considerations that cross our mind that the average female wouldn’t think of when dating someone for the first time. Does he have a criminal record? Is there a photo of him at the police station? Does he do drugs? Does he drink and drive? These are first or second date thoughts for us. Where the average woman would be thinking; “Does he work out? Does he have money? Does he have a hot car?” Well, we wonder if he has a hot car, too, but it means something entirely different in our world. That is the one I relate to the most.... So if you can't run them, then how does one get around this? Is it just a matter of wait-and-see? Do you ask a lot of questions? Are you always watching for red flags?
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So make the best of this test, and don't ask why.
It's not a question, but a lesson learned in time. - Green Day
So if you can't run them, then how does one get around this? Is it just a matter of wait-and-see? Do you ask a lot of questions? Are you always watching for red flags?
I plead the fifth on all the ways to find info out......lol
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