What people think do not determine who you are. What you think of yourself is what counts and you know you are not a failure. Not to get religious or sappy but just remember that God does not create garbage. We all bring something to the table even if some folks just have no table manners (like your dad is acting right now). Hang in there.
deputy dinosaur wrote: Great point Kansas. Hang in the BBB and when your ready to talk we are hear to listen. Even though we always screw around..we know when to be serious. We do? Uh, I mean yeah, we know when to be serious. BE HAPPY
I don't know your dad, or why he may think you're a failure, if in fact he does all. So, I am going to talk out of my ass on this one.
Parents from the time their kids are born want them to grow up and be successful and happy. The problem with that is many times that definition of success was determined when we were children.
Your father probably watched you grow up and saw in your different strengths in you that you've never seen. And because of that, he may have dreamed you'd be a pro athlete, a doctor, or heaven forbid, a lawyer or journalist.
So, when the child grow up and lives there own life and "beats to a differenet drum" there is disappointment. And that happens all through life until there is a point when the parent comes to terms with their childs independence. That can happen at 12 or 70.
You will always be his baby, and he will always want the things in life for you that HE WANTED. Hopefully oneday, he will see that you are living your life and doing the things that make you happy in it. And whether you're a teacher or finally achieve your dream of become an armed secretary, opps I mean police officer, He'll be proud of you. (which of course he probably is 99% of the time anyway)
Feel better babe
Now, if I missed the boat, I'm sorry and I F-off now.
I hear yo BBB. It hurts when peeps cut into to you, ones that count. Parents are huge in that area.
I dont know what the issues was, but i know my mom can break me just by a look, words every more.
what ever it was, it will soon be over and ther ewill be a tomoorow,a nd he will see that there was really no reason to go off the deep end. All failure means is that I just need to find another way to do it. Thomas Edison attempted the light bulb 1000 times before it came to be.
sometimes those who should know better...just don't understand......
Sometimes they don't understand you and what you are doing... and sometimes they understand what they are saying appears to mean something that hurts you...even if it wasn't meant that way at all.
hang in there kiddo....
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I am sorry BBB. I can only ask you what my mom used to ask me when someone would call me a name when I was a small girl.
"Are you?"
My answer was always no.
I know you are not a failure, so........just feel sorry for your father and his inability to see how wonderful you are. Perhaps he is trying to hide a failure in his life by making you feel bad. Dont let him do that...dont let anybody do that.
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This really is a tough one, but first off, BBB are you happy with where you have got in life? If you answer yes, then you are not a failure.
My kids mean the world to me, and I want the best for them, but in so many different ways.
My eldest boy is 17, nearly 18 years old and about to leave school, I have pushed him a bit as I do with my other two kids, but you can only push them so far before they rebel. So as much as I want him to get a really good job with really good pay etc, I also want for him to be happy. If happiness means having a job that does not pay as well, then so be it, he has succeeded, because money does not buy happiness and being happy is the most important thing in the world.
Like deputy dinosaur said we all like to screw around in here and maybe act like assholes, but we can have a serious side as well, so when you are feeling down talk to us.
I'm so sorry, BBB. From the few things you've posted about him, it seems as if you have a great deal of respect for him. It must be devestating to find that he doesn't respect you. However, you shouldn't allow that to interfere with what you want to do with your life. He will either come to accept it, or not. But the bottom line, it's YOUR life, you have to live it in such a way that you find fulfillment. Not to satisfy someone else. You are NOT a loser or a failure.
Thank you for replying to my post. I hadn't said a word to my dad at all last night and this morning. Last night, I told my mom what happened and I knew I shouldn't have told her. I told her not to tell and guess what she told. I just wanted to forget it ever happened and to concentrate on finding work within a Police Department. Doing something that will make me happy.
I noticed that I had 3 voicemail messages on my answering machine. So I checked on the firat one, it was from my dad. He had three things to ask me. The last was telling me that I am not a failure (blah blah blah). So I knew my mom had told. I was already on my cell calling to let my dad know that I wanted him to make an appointment to have my truck cleaned and other truck stuff. When my mom answered the phone. I told her thanks for keeping our talk a secret. The other question was if I wanted to have dinner with my dad. I am still not sure if I am ready or not.
Again... Thank you for listening to me. Normally, I do not share how I am feeling or what I am going through.
BBB
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