Here's my situation. I am married with a 29 month old boy and a 9 year old from a previous relationship. This weekend, my husband's step dad pulled the hair of my 9 year old for turning the hands on a clock manually. I am just finding out about all of this and all my friends are at work and I had to tell somebody. What would you do? Cause I am thinking about driving out there and pulling him bald headed. But somehow I think this might not be the best course of action
Edit on a good note, the crackheads have an evic notice.
Yu need to confront him...after you cool down a bit. No sense in getting in trouble for hurting him, which I know you want to do.....I do and its not even my child.
Let him know what he did was unacceptable and that future visits with your child will be limited and that if any form of abuse accurs again......the visits will stop. He is not your childs primary disciplinarian and has no right to do what he did. Especially in the way he did it.
Good luck......it may be a good idea to find out anything else he has done. Pulling hair is a bit out of control ...I think.
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Oh my kids will never stay out there again. I am sorry for Shawn's mom but, oh well. She shouldn't have married the fucking jerk. He use to hit Shawn in the back of the head and shit when he was growing up. She wants to see her grandson now, it will be supervised or, she will do it here. As for him, he is an idiot. I am just gonna tell him to blow me next time I see him.
Sounds like a good plan...stick to it, though. Dont let him push you around or use his control methods on you......if you must kick his ass...do so kindly, he is old.
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I must respectfully disagree with you just a bit, my dear Bread Styx. Unless he's suffering from some degree of dementia, aging is no excuse for bad behavior. Respect is earned, and simply living for a long time doesn't make a person nicer, it just makes them older. I have great compassion and patience when making accomodations for an aged person's diminished capacity, but brushing off crankiness and downright nastiness by saying, "Oh, he's old, leave him alone" is something that I have a tough time with.
Plush, do what you need to do for your children, but I guess I wouldn't throw the old guy down the stairs. Obviously, he's used to handling discipline in a much different way and he's not going to change. If I had a child, I don't think I'd leave my child unsupervised with him, either. And as Bread Styx said, let him know that his behavior is unacceptable and find out if there's anything else that he's done.
-- Edited by Buttercup at 13:28, 2006-03-07
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I must respectfully disagree with you just a bit, my dear Bread Styx. Unless he's suffering from some degree of dementia, aging is no excuse for bad behavior. Respect is earned, and simply living for a long time doesn't make a person nicer, it just makes them older. I have great compassion and patience when making accomodations for an aged person's diminished capacity, but brushing off crankiness and downright nastiness by saying, "Oh, he's old, leave him alone" is something that I have a tough time with. Plush, do what you need to do for your children, but I guess I wouldn't throw the old guy down the stairs. Obviously, he's used to handling discipline in a much different way and he's not going to change. If I had a child, I don't think I'd leave my child unsupervised with him, either. And as Bread Styx said, let him know that his behavior is unacceptable and find out if there's anything else that he's done.-- Edited by Buttercup at 13:28, 2006-03-07
You misunderstood me, B-cup.....I meant she should not be so rough when kicking his ass because he is old......NOT to accept his poor behavior due to his age!
Silly
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You misunderstood me, B-cup.....I meant she should not be so rough when kicking his ass because he is old......NOT to accept his poor behavior due to his age! Silly
Oh, I'm sorry about that, Bread Styx. I think my own capacity is a little diminished, I'm not feeling well today.
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Bread Styx wrote: You misunderstood me, B-cup.....I meant she should not be so rough when kicking his ass because he is old......NOT to accept his poor behavior due to his age! Silly Oh, I'm sorry about that, Bread Styx. I think my own capacity is a little diminished, I'm not feeling well today.
No problem, amiga. I wasnt very clear in my explanation, so there is no need to apologize.
Hope you feel better.......
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Yeah he use to beat the shit out of her I guess. I'd killa motherfucker if they laid a hand on me, like I was some trailer park ho. Yeah Yeah I know, trailer park ho's need love too.
oh yes, you must always satisfy the monkey. 
