WTF! I was at WalMart this weekend and I saw this kids (maybe 5 or 6) stomping and screaming in the middle of the isle and there was his mom acting like nothing was going on????
You could hear this kid get louder and louder throughout the store.....hell, I wanted to go over and smack him! But his mother just kept shoppin?
I remember going to the store with my mother and if we did anything remotely like that, she would smack the shit out of us! We learned! I taught my kids the same lesson, the same way....a swift "benny hill" to the back of the head works wonders! Ignoring it sure the hell doesn't!!!!
I saw a similar thing at the gas station this morning. A mother yellin at her kid to "come here, come here" as the kid raced around the parking lot! Instead of going over, grabbin the kid and swattin his behind, she stood there near the door, just waiting???? WTF?????
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at five or 6 yrs of age they should know how to act.. My daughter is 22 mnths old and when we are in walmart every now and then she will throw a fit I grab her arms not hard look her in the eyes and say that is enough. That seems to cool her jets.. I get people who look at me but I could care less she is still a baby she will have moments they get upset when they are tired and they dont understand and all they want to do is cry. She does have her moments when she throws a royal fit at home I lay her on the floor and let her have her tantrum or put her in her room ... She cant come out till she stops crying and if she is on the floor I wont pick her up till she stops crying.. She use to be bad in stores but she is a baby they do that now since we have been doing bedroom timeouts her attitude has changed 100 %. We however do not eat out with her yet she seems to want to get down and run around I am not having that so we eat in . Not a problem when she is older then we will eat out with her. At this age they dont want to seem to stay still. But If she was 5 or 6 doing this OHH no her bedroom awaits I dont spank her I do how ever slap her hand if she is touching something she isnt suppost to. But I do see your point instead of letting the child do it she should have looked him in his eyes and told him enough then if that didnt work a tap on the bum hurts there pride more then anything.. What I hate is going out in public and seeign parents yelling at there kids to Shut up and swearing at them thats a big no no to me. Anyhow I feel your pain.
There is a new philosophy that children need to be allowed to just do the things that are age appropriate and not be disciplined. Some kids book informed mothers that discipline stifles and crushes self esteem and the one who disciplines can avoid the stress that yelling and spanking causes.
Hell, I get more stressed out when my daughter is annoying other people. I simply think it makes me look like a poor parent when my child is out of control. When she acts up in stores....and starts that running crap.....she is warned and if she continues...she is placed in confinement. Strapped in the cart. She knows when she is out of line and when she sees other children acting like the ones you mentioned, she will say, "Oh, they are not being very good ...someone is going to take them or they may get hurt." Yes, I scare my child....only so she is aware of her surroundings and is leraning respect for those around her.
My husband, fortunately, does not put up with any nonsense from her and she has been taken away from stores and forced to sit with him and wait for me while I finish what I have to do. Its harder for me to do that when she and I are alone because I have things to do and cant just dump her in the car while I do them......I plan ahead and she is always in a cart with me while I shop and if not...I only have to get a couple of things and she wants to help me pay for them. It is very rare that she is not confined to a shopping cart .....I just dont have time for that disobediant, insane child crap....I am from a generation of raised eyebrows and a smacks to the head if I misbehaved. I try not to solve everything with a spanking, but if I have to I will.
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Your child is the perfect age to teach that stuff to..I wish I had done more when mine was that little. It all in the tone of voice......My 3 year old is a sweet girla dn many times she is just tired or hungry or just acting her age...I am just teaching her to act her age in a more approriate setting...not a grocery store. If we are at the mall, we can shop and then she can play at this play center thing they have ...get a little tired and then shop again.....
I try to do most of my shopping when she is at school...its just easier. Today, I am still a little achy , but have cleaning up to do. My neice is coming over to help me keep her occupied while I work.....it will be helpful.
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I've had people look at me a bit strange when I had to "benny hill" my kid on the back of the head before. I even had one woman tell me "it was innappropriate". I explained to her that the behavior was innappropriate, the disapline was deserved!
I think some parents are actually afraid to disapline their kids because the kids can call the law on them now. And these same kids know that fact and use it to their advantage! I don't condone child abuse, but I believe disapline in a necessity. yelling and screaming really doesn't phase a kid, but a swift smack to the ass cheeks gives them something to remember!
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I do agree with what is being said. Parents still have the right to punish there kid. As long as the parent doesn't go overboard, I will never arrest a parent for child abuse. Hell for most cases I would do the same thing. Am I post to arrest myself everytime a smack my kid across the ass.
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the kid was looking for attendtion hince he got louder and louder. the mother was wrong by not doing a thing,. this crap drives me bat shit crazy.
period, like above, parents are scared or something to do something becasue the kids will call, others will call or what ever. If I was a parent, i would do approate things to calm the child or punish the child but damn letting the kids go in the store drive everyone nuts.
at 5 or 6 they know exactly what they are doing.
my friend had the best ending for her child that would throw a fir in the store, and it worked everytime.
she looked becca in the eyes and said" when wwe get home, all these people wont see what happends then. you better get up and start walking or your ain trouble"
she would then start to walk away and this little 4 1/2 would RUN to her and stop immadatity.
it took one time to take her home, spank her butt and let her understand who was the parent and who was the child.
she did that one time when she was almost three. never again did she ever have to take her home.
I'm soooooo glad I'm not alone here on this..... Sometimes I wonder because I am a parent and I think maybe I'm just lookin at this wrong, but I feel better now.
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Anymore it seems we are so afraid to do what we know to be the right thing because it may seem politically incorrect, or ironically enough, against the law. This seems to have to do with many things other then “raising kids”, but for this post it applies. The truth of the matter is kids, like adults, only NOT do something when they know the consequence hurts. AKA – hand on hot stove. I try very hard not to hit my thumb with a hammer, touch hot things, or sucker punch a big man by the name of bubba because I know, in the end I will be wishing I hadn’t. People seem to get so caught up in the “pain” of discipline and not the lessen it teaches, which prevents not only the same act from happening, but perhaps even worse ones that may kill. But that’s me.
Right! Which is why we end up with so many "weird" people that do things to their kids and everyone else, that make the need for laws that prevent normal people from being able to prevent the next generation of "weirdness". It's messed up.
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