ok if i dont f*ing vent i am going to f*ing blow up gggggggggggggggggrrrrrrrrrrrr
Ok last mighht my very good friend nik AIM'd me he was very upset his ex girl friend gave birth to a baby in september after they broke up ashe found out she was preg . They broke up because she had cheated on him for mnths and mnths she said the baby wasnt niks now she comes out after all this time and says she doesnt know if the baby is niks or the other guys.. Nik is so upset that she hid this from him and he has missed out on her birth first chriatmas and about 5 or 6 mnths of her life... I feel so bad for him he would be a great dad... anyhow thats not my biggest problem ...
He was dating another friedn of mine named jess... well he told her and she got mad and sadi no i want to have your babies... Nik got mad and thought about it today he broke up with her before allthis happened he was talking to me about breaking up with her because he isnt inlove with her and he is not happy .. I told him i support you if you do because you cant make yourself love someone. Anyhow when she made the comment he was doen he endee it today well she has me on aim and omg She is annoying me she just isnt getting it ..
A he isnt happy
B he might be a daddy .. here is hers and my conversation omg
ME [8:40 PM]: Jess I hope you are not m,ad at me but .. I just gave my opinion It really had nothing to do with you he just isnt inlove with you.. hun there is someone out there for you ok someone really special.. Im not taking sides i just dont believ in staying together for all the wrong reasons. Jess [8:52 PM]: im here Jess [8:53 PM]: but before when we broke up you said he lost someone good Me [8:55 PM]: he did you are a good person that doesnt mean that you were the one for him Jess [8:56 PM]: what did he all say to you, but i dont know if i want to know if it will make me more upset Jess [8:56 PM]: im sorry but i think in my opinion he will be sorry Me [8:57 PM]: that maybe jess that is your opinion he has alot of stress he might be a daddy and being a daddy comes above everything Jess [8:58 PM]: so it just didnt half to do with me Jess[8:58 PM]: i still do care about him Me [8:59 PM]: no not just you ... its just that he wasnt happy and that he has a great possability of being that little girls daddy Jess [8:59 PM]: well i dont know what i did to not make him happy Me [9:00 PM]: you didnt do anything its all to do with chemestry if someone isnt the one for you ... you dont develope those feelings Jess [9:00 PM]: yea but i still care Me[9:01 PM]: you are going to for a while hun it will get better with time Jess [9:01 PM]: but remember last time when we broke up and he left me he wanted me back he said he wasnt happy without me Me [9:02 PM]: peopel change when they grow you need to remember that he has just had his entire life turned upside down Jess [9:03 PM]: so whats that suppose to mean? Me[9:05 PM]: that a girl has had a baby that might be his and if she is his he has missed out on her birth her first christmas and almost 6 mnths of her life being a parent changes everything Jess [9:06 PM]: yea, but this all didnt half to do with just me and him ME[9:07 PM]: i think it might have been he said you got tears in your eyes when he told you he needed support being a parent as i said changes everything if he is her daddy then she will become his world JESS[9:07 PM]: is that bad i got tears in my eyes? ME[9:08 PM]: i dunno he is just really hurt and shocked over this he might have a baby whom he has missed out alot on Jess [9:08 PM]: but you dont know he might not be happy without me because sometimes that happens ME [9:09 PM]: idont know jess all i know is that he isnt at this time and place in his life Jess [9:11 PM]: you mean happy with me at this time? Jess[9:11 PM]: well i think i made him happy before ME[9:12 PM]: yes but people change hun he just isnt the one for you at this time JESS [9:12 PM]: yea but he could of been JESS [9:12 PM]: but something just serious just happened to him ME [9:12 PM]: no hun you cant make someone love you the way you want them to JESS [9:13 PM]: i thought he cared ME [9:13 PM]: he does care but not in that way he cares more in a friend way JESS [9:14 PM]: so he stopped caring ME [9:14 PM]: no he cares about you as a friend JESS [9:15 PM]: so he stopped caring about me in the other way, but he told me he still has feelings for me ME [9:16 PM]: he loves you as a person but not as a life partner JESS [9:16 PM]: so he never really loved me JESS[9:17 PM]: so it shouldnt be no problem for him to half to work with me ME [9:17 PM]: not the way you want him to .. im sure he loved you at one time but he wasnt in love with you JESS[9:19 PM]: he told you that ME[9:19 PM]: not in those exact words but more or less yes.... JESS[9:20 PM]: what did he say though ME[9:20 PM]: he cares about your well being like a father would his child JESS [9:21 PM]: well if he told me he loved me before he couldnt of meant it all the time ME [9:22 PM]: he could have when he told you JESS [9:22 PM]: he used to tell me i was the best that ever happened to him JESS [9:22 PM]: all i have is memories when he did love me ME [9:23 PM]: enjoy those memories they were good time s JESS[9:23 PM]: im sure he will remember to ME [9:24 PM]: he will keep you in his heart but he will move forward too which is what you need to do also JESS [9:24 PM]: do you know how that makes me feel that maybe he might not have ever loved me JESS[9:25 PM]: its hard to move on when you still do care ME [9:25 PM]: He did love you as a person jess I know heart aches hurt they are painful JESS[9:26 PM]: what do you mean as a person ME [9:26 PM]: you know how i love you as a friend he loves you the way i love you JESS [9:26 PM]: so thats the way he always felt JESS [9:27 PM]: yea but feelings can come back ME[9:27 PM]: im sure at one point he loved you as a girlfriend but as you love someone and time grows on if they are not the one for you then those feelings fade JESS [9:29 PM]: so thats what he did tell you JESS [9:30 PM]: i dont understand how he could of just stopped loving me as his girlfriend ME [9:30 PM]: he told me what i have been telling you he isnt inlove with you he might be a daddy which means it willbe all about the baby ME [9:30 PM]: when they arent the one you cant force the feelings JESS [9:31 PM]: but he said he still has those feelings on the phone to me ME[9:31 PM]: feelings about caring JESS [9:31 PM]: this is just awful JESS [9:32 PM]: i still have feelings for him to ME [9:32 PM]: i know hun but you are gonna pull threw this and move forward and find someone who is right for you JESS [9:34 PM]: i just wished he still did love me ME[9:35 PM]: I know hun but he doesnt JESS [9:36 PM]: well he didnt exactly tell you that ME[9:36 PM]: jess not word for word but thats what he meant JESS[9:36 PM]: he said he loved me like a father ME[9:37 PM]: he cares about you like a parent would JESS [9:37 PM]: well he could never act like my boyfriend cuz of the wayt i am JESS [9:38 PM]: i dont know where that person is though JESS [9:38 PM]: he doesnt miss me one bit probably ME[9:39 PM]: hun he doesnt have time to he might be daddy to be honest you might be the last person on his mind when it comes to children they become a persons world
JESS [9:46 PM]: but i think he will miss me JESS [9:46 PM]: and realize maybe someday he will need me ME [9:46 PM]: maybe but not at this time in his life ok hun JESS[9:47 PM]: ok brb but he couldnt of just stopped loving me like that cuz when you really care it just dont stop ME [9:50 PM]: hun you can stop loving someone like that loving someone is different then being in love
OMG SOMEONE PLEASE HURT ME LOL MAN I AM GETTING MAD I AM HER FRIEND I WILL BE HERE FOR HER BUT IF I DONT VENT I WILL BLOW GGGGGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
Well, hang in there and try and remain neutral. It sucks being the middle of friends that break up. I'd becareful with giving advice about where "Nik's" heads at, etc, because if they fix things up and get back together you might end up looking like a bad guy if you trashed him. (not that you are or anything)
He needs to get a pat test down and fast, so he can assume his responsibilities if she is his, or run like the wind if she's not!
thanks for the advise but im pretty sure i wont look like the bad guy i dhad to change soemthings that he said because they would have really hurt her so i had to soften the blow .. I doubt they will get back together ... he hasnt been happy for along time i talked to him last night and he said it was like a sigh of relief... She AIM'd me and was upset i didnt he best i could do to get her to understand. that is what he is doing he has gone down and filed witht the courts .. he said i hope she is mine i really do if she is not I will be really hurt. But all I can do is listen and try to not get her hopes up.. But I did have to soften the blow for her or eles yeah lets not imagine what would have happened.
anyhow if i dont i would have blown i was getting frustrated.. but thank bye the way nics av. lol
I wouldnt get in the middle. let him vent but dont take it personally and dont try to fix it.
he needs to get the pat, test done NOW, and if his start paying before she waits till the child is like 6 and thens goes after him.
as far as friends hooking up and all. I tell them upfront, im your friend, im not getting in the middle..and if a friend gets into a relationship while im friends, im ok with both, but if it breask....Im stil friends with the first. easy come easy go
BTW-you have way to much DRAMA in your life. (at least thast my thought. I dont do drama)
LMAO I know lol But I am the one everyone comes to lol please send me a ticket i need a vacation I have shut off the phone and put up my away message lol.. all i want to do is bea at peace and not deal with anything lol
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